Day 25 – Thanks and Gratitude – What are you so grateful for?
This year I have so many things to be grateful for, but everything seems to fall comfortably in the honorable mention category except for marriage equality. This single issue embodies the themes of all the world’s championed causes – love, peace, and freedom. Who wouldn’t want more of that??
I have long been a supporter of gay rights, long before I actually identified as being gay myself. So, my position doesn’t come as a casualty of my own circumstances. I have had gay friends since grade school, my first memory being of a friend on the swim team with me who fought the line between being gay but also being raised with certain fundamental religious beliefs that being gay is wrong. This didn’t pass the sniff test for me.
This is the predominant reason why, at the tender age of 12, I picked my head up and started asking questions of my church peer group about why God would create someone who is gay and then teach that it is wrong. To teach that anything is wrong really, is asking for people to judge one another. And, judging, also is wrong. So, everything is wrong. Smells fishy. God is smarter than this, right?
So either someone misinterpreted what God was actually trying to teach, God alone should do the judging and allow the people of the world to peacefully coexist without bias, or there is no God and someone made this all up. EITHER WAY, being gay is FINE.
I’ll veer myself away from a religious discussion on the Christmas holiday, but that was the beginning of the end for me and my faith.
I can’t fathom why anyone would oppose people loving one another. Building a family together. Living in a way that honors who they are that hurts exactly no one. I didn’t care whether it would be legal when I proposed to G two summers ago. I wanted us to stand up together and show our support to equality in the face of inequality. I bought her ring a week before DOMA was repealed, and happily proposed to her the week after.
The year that we were engaged, the better part of 2014, states turned over their legislation and came on board. And one week before we actually go married, in Maryland where it has been legal for nearly 2 years, our home state, Virginia, made it legal as well.
I am so grateful that I can share my life with this woman in the open and comfortable way that couples everywhere do. That I can love her and be loved by her on the street where we live. That I can hold her hand in the movie theater and kiss her on the cheek as she dashes off to the metro for work. That everyone who has a bad thing to say about this love that I have is slowly being suffocated into silence- may they all live with their own internal judgement and hate but never cast it upon me or my family.
I am grateful for the love and support of our friends and family who lift us up every day, and have celebrated us for the better part of the year. You make us stronger, prouder, and at peace.